I’m thrilled to be guest blogging today at Scary Mommy, a wildly popular blog offering a funny and honest look at motherhood.
My guest post is called, Mean Girls Don’t Rule, about my daughter’s experience at the start of the school year. Click HERE to read.
4 thoughts to “Mean Girls Don’t Rule on Scary Mommy”
Your point about the mothers of mean girls struck a cord — "Part of the missing piece is the fact that the moms of the mean girls aren’t part of the conversation. There is no accountability for their daughters’ behavior. And, sometimes, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, if you know what I mean." SO TRUE. Have you mentioned this idea to anyone at your school, about involving parents in the conversation? What did they say? (Would those mothers dare turn "mean girl" on Lisa and Terri?)
Hi Anon, great question! Well, the schools discourage involvement in this type of issue. By 2nd or 3rd grade, it's up to the kids and or the school to handle mean girl/boy stuff. Occasionally, you can talk to another mom, but in my experience that doesn't really happen when there is a problem. The other moms won't turn mean girl on the head of school. They might, however, turn mean girl on the other mom.
I wasn't referring to any specific conflict. Rather, you said that a "missing piece" in the school's current program is that it does not include parents. Have you (or anyone else) suggested that the current program be revised to include parents specifically, to address the reality you mention? If so, it would be interesting to hear the school's reaction. If not, maybe you should consider giving it try?
Hi Again, I agree with you that a good idea would be to involve parents to address the general issues of girl conflict. Some parents have no idea there's even a problem and other parents have kids who are always at the center of a problem. The same way parents are educated continually about the proper use of technology at school (and at home), mean girl issues could be addressed in a similar way.